Spirit remembers it all...

When I look at my life I’m surprised by how much of what I am living today is something that when I was younger I must have had a thought such as, “I like this!”, “I want this.”, “it’d be nice to be like this!”. For instance when I was growing up I lived off and on with my Nana and Tata (my grandparents). They lived in Lemon Grove, a suburb of San Diego, CA. Their home sat on a quarter of an acre on a canyon’s edge. No houses behind them. It was pure heaven to me. Many mornings throughout my childhood I would go in the backyard and look out onto the vast property and take in the fresh air, all the tree’s and plants. I felt as though I was the only person for miles around. I loved their property. Fast forward forty some years and I’m sitting in my spa that sits in my deck that overlooks the canyon’s edge. It’s a beautiful easy spring morning, the sun is beginning to rise and there’s a lovely chill in the air. There are many plants and shrubs near by. A large tree about 30 feet away swaying in the wind that all the birds are called to. These birds are chirping their morning song, chirp, “good morning, life is good”, chirp, chirp, “good morning, life is good”. As I enjoy the warm soothing water against my entire body and take in the peaceful scenery my heart sings and I am filled with deep appreciation as I realize this wasn’t always the case. I had always longed for this spa. I didn’t know if it would ever happen and yet there I sit enjoying all the outer pleasures of my backyard canyon view with the flora, birds and sky. I wanted this spa. I visualized it. I felt myself sitting in it with its wellness properties yet I never imagined the joy that the setting would give me. It’s as though Spirit (God, Creator, Goddess, fill in the blank with whichever name works for you) said, “Stephanie you want a spa? Ok, I’m gonna do you one even better! I remember every request you have made since your first breathe and I will pull together many of them and deliver them in one beautiful package, and here it is!” 

As I am sitting and enjoying my spa from this incredible view with all the birds singing good morning to me and the hummingbird buzzing near by sounding like a mini UFO, it occurs to me that I, long ago had asked for a home on a canyon’s edge with no neighbors behind me and here I sit. I never went looking for it and yet here it is. I had asked and Spirit had delivered it with all its glory. And that my friends is why I love practicing and living the art of allowing. Being in the flow of life. Feeling as good as I can, as often as I can, for as long as I can. When I do the “feeling good” work, I feel better more of the time and my life gets better and better. And I enjoy myself along the way. It is well worth the 5, 10 or even 15 minutes it may take me to feel a little bit better and than a little bit better until before I know it I’m feeling pretty darn good. Because, the universal law of attraction is always working. In every moment LOA (law of attraction) as I lovingly like to refer to it, is responding to my thoughts and energy as well as yours. Because what we think about will come about. I love teaching my clients about this art and witnessing their transformation. Giving them tools and techniques so they too can be in the flow and allow their lives to feel better and therefore be better one day at a time. Because really the only reason why we want absolutely anything and everything we want, is because we think we will feel better in having it. Once we realize and begin to make “feeling good” our main objective, then life will continue to get better and better. It has to. Law of attraction insists upon it. Granted we’re not always going to feel good however when we make this our main objective to the best of our ability at any given moment, that’s when the change occurs and the magic begins. I call it magic because it looks and feels like magic however it really isn’t magic it’s the powerful law of attraction at work. Really cool people, places and things will come along. 

This is the whole purpose of my work as a transformational life coach and the purpose of this blog. I want to remind you of how powerful, blessed and abundant you are. To assist you in flipping the switch of your thinking to better feeling thoughts and therefore be a match to anything and everything you are wanting to live, be, do and have. Here’s to us living a really good life. Cheers!

  Dreams really do come true. My Oasis of Joy!

Dreams really do come true. My Oasis of Joy!

  I always wanted a Pine Tree in my backyard. I never planted this tree it just sprouted up one day. The Universe knew I wanted a pine tree in my backyard, away from my house and not obstructing my view. Yes the perfect spot for it!

I always wanted a Pine Tree in my backyard. I never planted this tree it just sprouted up one day. The Universe knew I wanted a pine tree in my backyard, away from my house and not obstructing my view. Yes the perfect spot for it!

The better it gets the better it gets...

This is the big sell for doing the “feeling better” work. Today has been amazing, one thing after another. It was lovely and it all began this morning, when I stepped out of bed to use the bathroom. In the past, my first thought was a negative thought. A thought that I’d thought many times when I first woke up and began to put one foot on the floor. A thought that felt bad to me yet it had become a habit. A bad habit. A habit that didn’t serve me and it wasn’t until I decided to pay greater attention to how my thoughts felt that I noticed I had this one reoccurring thought first thing in the morning. So I decided to replace it with a better feeling thought such as, “I am thankful for our beautiful view”. We have french doors that look out into our fabulous backyard that I have fondly nicknamed “my oasis of joy”. And so I say, “I am thankful for our beautiful view” and on I go. It’s been several weeks now and I realized this morning that it’s becoming a habit. A good habit. And so that was the beginning of my good day. I did most of my usual morning routine. A lot of it occurs before I get out of bed. First thing, I meditate. I’ve been doing this Insight Timer (phone app) 20 minute meditation called “Law of Attraction and Abundance”. Love it! Then on to appreciation, prayer and setting my intention for the day. This morning happened to be the day where I give myself a coaching session. I hired myself about 18 months ago and I give myself a coaching session once a week, four times a month. It’s amazing. I know it sounds funny but it’s badass. I brag, (something us women don’t do enough of) I’m an awesome coach. Btw, my coaching session today left me feeling fantastic! As law of attraction would have it some incredible momentum was created by 11:45 am. Then, off to co-work with a friend I used to co-work with regularly yet we haven’t in a while so I’m excited and happy to see her. Work side by side and write on my stories and do other business items needing to be done. 

I showed up at Twiggs coffee shop to co-work with my sweet friend who for the stories sake I shall call Tonya. We catch up a little before I begin to work. I’m feeling pretty damn good now having pre-paved my day. About an hour and a half goes by and Tonya had stepped outside to stretch her legs. I’m working on one of my stories and I hear a man say, “Miss Orlina”. I look up and it’s a nicely dressed attractive man who I don’t recognize. He smiles at me and says again, “Miss Orlina”. I’m thinking, he knows my last name, do I somehow know him through my husband? I say yes and he says to me Dan, Dan B (I have changed his name as well). Still not registering until it does a huge smile of surprise and delight covers my face and I remember where I know this man from. Oh my God, I met Dan over a year ago while eating breakfast on a lovely Sunday morning in Pacific Beach. I had gone there to celebrate some major work achievements I had recently accomplished. We sat near one another and we struck up a conversation. Dan being as friendly and open as I we had a lovely chat about life and business. He told be about his “informational interview” work he’d created from reading a book he to this day cannot remember the name of. At the time I felt it was a gift from God, the next tool I could utilize in the continued growth of my business. He gave me his contact info and told me he’d send me the documents he had created. I had stayed in touch with him ever since, doing my best to practice what he suggested in his material, which is to stay in regular monthly contact. 

Dan asked if he could join me for a moment and I said, of course please sit down. He started to sit across from me and I motioned him to bring his chair closer to where I was sitting. I couldn’t believe it, here I was at Twiggs, I hadn’t co-worked here in over a year. Dan had never been to this coffee house yet had been near by and wanted some coffee. He walks in and there I am sitting writing about my stories of life and how Spirit does for us amazing things on the regular and in this very moment Spirit is surprising and delighting us both. WOW! Another story. I couldn’t believe I was sitting across from Dan. He looked really good. He had mentioned to me in his last email that he’d lost many pounds and was feeling and looking good. We chatted, catching up on the latest and all I could do as I sat across from him was beam with joy by what was happening. I had just been thinking of Dan, for a couple of reasons. I’d been reading books by Rich Dad Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki, and considering one of the ways I would create passive income was to purchase rental properties for positive cash flow. I knew Dan was in commercial real estate and wanted to chat with him about real estate in general. Also, it’d been awhile since I last emailed him and it was time to check in. Wow, Spirit made the phone call for me and actually decided to make it a sit down meeting. LOL! I was buzzing with delight. We hadn’t seen each other in person since the first day we met and here we now were “out of the blue” sitting across from each other catching up. I was feeling good before yet now I was over the moon with delight. WTBleep?! I love Spirit, God, Higher Power. How the Universe will surprise and delight us in ways we would never imagine AND all we need to do is do the “feeling better” work. Help ourselves be in the receptive mode, allowing the good to arrive and in this case, keep arriving. We went back and forth talking about what was going on. Then I asked him about real estate and what he does. He shared his story with me. His work history since college. We’re about the same age, in our 50’s. I got some info for real estate. Which was great. Tonya walked back in and I introduced them to one another. I believe Tonya was the first person I had shared Dan’s informational interview documents with. She had enjoyed reading and using his material and found it to be very helpful in growing her influential contacts. Dan had so graciously said to me, “please share them with anyone you’d like”. So it was a privilege to introduce them to one another. By the way this was something else I had been wanting, for these two to meet. They chatted briefly and Dan and I returned to our conversation. Man was  I happy! Did I tell you that already? LOL! My good feeling mood had compounded by the events that were unfolding before my very eyes. I never in a million years would have imagined this happening today in this way. That’s HP! Dan’s cell phone had been buzzing throughout our conversation and he kept pushing it away, he finally said, “ok, I’ll tell you the drama, the upset that is going on in my life today”. He proceeded to share it all with me. It was pretty emotional stuff and he teared up as he told me. I reached my hand out to console him. I won’t divulge here what he said. I will say, it would rock anyone of our worlds. I gave him some words of encouragement as well as saying that the young person in his life was lucky to have him. A good man, and his wife who I knew had to be amazing to have married him. That now this person could get the support they had been needing.

He needed to leave so I said I would walk out with him. We chatted a little more outside. I wanted to be as supportive and kind as I could. I knew he was in a lot of emotional pain because of what was going on. He said he knew now why he had come to this coffee shop. It was so that he would run into me. He was able to share his pain and get some support. He hadn’t really shared it with anyone. The only people that knew were the immediate people who had been affected. I am now so happy I could be there for him. He is one of the sweetest, giving, grounded, friendliest, kindest men I have met in my life and I felt honored and privileged to be there for him in a way I never thought I’d be given the opportunity to. It really is one of the things I do best. He left and I walked back in happy, filled, and in awe of God’s ability to put me in places that would bring me joy and be of service to others. It is one of the many benefits of practicing the “feeling better” work. Something good is always coming. After chatting with Tonya for a bit more I told her I was going to use the restroom and get back to writing. As I stood up to head to the restroom I looked in that direction and recognized a familiar face that I’d never seen in this part of town. I had been thinking of this friend a day or two ago. WHAT?! I stepped back and bent down to tell Tonya, I just spotted another friend. I walked over to her, I shall call her Kathy, and said, “excuse me do you know if they have Jasmine tea here?” she looked up at me and after a second a big smile appeared on her face as she said, “oh my god what are you doing here? I was going to text you about dinner soon”. We hugged and laughed at our running into each other. We agreed to make dinner plans soon. 

Life isn’t always jammed packed with amazing mind blowing moments, however, practicing the “feeling better” work is always beneficial in a variety of ways. What I do know, is if I hadn’t taken the time to be mindful and practice the tools of “feeling better” I wouldn’t have been in a higher vibration to allow in the wonderful experience of running into Dan and everything else that came about that day and for that I am deeply thankful. The great benefit of doing the “feeling better” work is that we get to enjoy life more and more. When we come to understand that our thoughts create our life experience and become mindful about what we’re going to give our attention to, it is priceless. No amount of action gives greater returns nor feels better than when we practice “feeling good/feeling better”.  

Interested in how you can feel better more of the time, go to my “Get on the road to happiness” page and take advantage of my FREE Discovery session. I look forward to chatting with you. 

The Power of Pleasure

Few know about the power of pleasure. 

How many times have I heard from clients and friends I was having fun and then I received this unexpected referral or I’ve started dating so and so and I feel so good and by the way I’ve made more sales this month than all of last year and I don’t know why or I just moved into my new place and I love it and I’ve had all these deals close this month and I don’t know why. Well I do! Each of these people were enjoying themselves in one way or another, in a state of allowing their natural state of well being to flow to them in ways they never would have imagined. Maybe you can relate to this. I realize there is this struggle within me and many others. It goes something like this; “I need to work harder”, “I need to focus more”, “I’m not doing enough”. Fact of the matter is, most of my clients I have allowed in when I least expected it. A referral from a current client, someone text messages me out of the blue, “I want to hire you to coach me”. I keep thinking of an acquaintance of mine and then that same person comes up via a mutual friend of ours and next thing I know I’m connecting with this person and she hires me and on and on it goes. Was I working hard at this? No. Was I taking action regularly in some capacity? Most definitely. Was I feeling good in general? Absolutely! The fine line between allowing abundance to flow to me in ways I never would imagine and suiting up and showing up for my life both personally and professionally on a regular basis. Doing the “feeling good work” and the “being a professional and taking strategic business actions regularly”. Never really knowing exactly where and how yet trusting that when I show up regularly for both it will happen, it will unfold in ways that will surprise and delight me and of course enjoying the journey along the way. That is living the art of allowing. Practicing the power of pleasure and being a responsible and successful adult in life both personally and professionally. Because really what’s the point of reaching the goal if we’re not enjoying ourselves along the way. I believe in striving for well being in all areas of my life as much as humanly possible. When I’m ninety and chillaxing in my comfy rocking chair rocking it on my porch I want to say and think to myself, “I really have enjoyed myself, my life kept getting better and better”. 

  Chillaxing, enjoying and appreciating life is what it’s all about.

Chillaxing, enjoying and appreciating life is what it’s all about.

Life is Good...

This blog is my platform to share my stories of how the Universe loves to surprise and delight us with abundance, love and joy. They are not written in chronological order. I post them randomly. I share them partly because I need to and partly because I want to invite you to remember yours. To bring your stories of abundance, love and joy to the forefront of your mind. This blog is for me and for you. I like to call it "the story". Spirit is the master story writer and often times delivers to us what we want in ways we never would have imagined possible. I hope you enjoy them as much as I love sharing them. My hope is that they will inspire you to reminisce the good times and invite you to intentionally create and allow more. Life is supposed to be good for us and when we are a energetic match to what we want, magic happens. When we're feeling good or any other positive emotion our lives get better and better. I hope this blog does just that, help you feel better. Thank you for being a part of my journey. 

 

  Life is supposed to be fun for us.

Life is supposed to be fun for us.