Art of allowing

My cat friend, Tiger...

My beautiful dog, Jessie, passed away in the Spring of 2010. I didn’t realize how much I depended on her emotionally for fun, until she was no longer physically with us. Jessie never liked cats, and so after some time had passed and I was done grieving, I decided next time I wanted a cat and a dog, ones who loved each other. Knowing that, I wasn’t ready to go out and get a dog and cat so instead I decided for an easier softer method of allowing in my hearts desire.

Being that I was a personal assistant for quite a long time, one of the services I offered my customers was pet sitting. I had purchased some animal greeting cards and would give them as Thank You cards for their much appreciated business. One of the greeting cards was of a beautiful orange cat. Kinda like Morris the Cat. The cat was looking lovingly into the camera. So I decided to use this greeting card as my vision board to create a loving cat of my own. I placed it on my desk, and on a regular basis, I would look at the card and imagine having a sweet, playful and soft cat. As the days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months I got better and better at imagining actually having a sweet, playful and loving cat of my own. How good it would feel to pet him and hug him. Over time, I got so into it I began talking to it as though he were real. I would look at the card and tell it how much I loved it as though it were a real cat. Our imagination and emotions are very powerful tools to create anything we want. I could feel myself getting more and more into it as time passed. Practice makes better. 

So, it happened to be the year we were having our deck redone in composite decking as well as I was finally buying my much desired spa. I couldn’t have been happier. The best man for the job, Dave Rychart and his son, Joshua, were redoing our deck so there was a lot going on in our backyard. One day during this project our neighbors cat, Tiger, came walking over to check out what the heck was going on. I remember having met him about six months earlier when my neighbor and her sons had gotten him. My granddaughter, Dominique, was with me and Tiger had let her hold him as one would cradle a baby. I was surprised by this because he was about six months old and so chilled and laid back. I hadn’t ever seen a cat let someone hold them that way. He had really made an impression on me. I had never seen him again until he had wandered into our yard that day to investigate all the ruckus. I was surprised by his visit and equally welcomed it. I remember constantly taking pictures of him and enjoying his new presence as he checked out the scene on a daily basis. His regular visits as the work was being done on our deck, went on for several weeks. One day, as I was working in my office, he came wandering down our hallway and walked into the room. I was a bit surprised to see him and realized one of the doors must have been open and he had just let himself in. He strolled by my desk and jumped up onto my comfy chair and immediately, I thought to myself, “oh heck no, I don’t like animals on my furniture”, but something inside me said, “it’s ok”. So I kept on working, holding in my natural response to tell him, “no”. He didn’t sit on the chair as I assumed he would. He walked across it, and then jumped onto the other end of my desk and that’s when I thought, “oh hell no”, but again the thought was, “it’s ok”. I just kept working despite again my natural urge to tell him, “no, get down”. So again, I kept on working, and of course thinking, “what the heck”. And before I knew it, he came walking in front of me on my desk and plopped right down, lying there having absolutely no cares in the world as if he owned the place. I was like, “what the heck!” And then it happened. I looked at him and right behind him was the pretty little greeting card with the sweet orange cat I had been talking to for months, imagining that I had a playful, sweet, loving, soft cat. Then, it hit me, Tiger had owned it. As plain and simple and powerful as that, he in that moment owned it. My mouth fell open in shock as I realized he was literally the essence of everything I had asked for, as Spirit knew, even better because I didn’t really want the responsibility of having my own four legged fury friend. I did however want all the other sweet stuff that comes with that, and Spirit had delivered it all and more to me in my neighbor’s cat, Tiger. To this day, Tiger and I have a very special bond. He’s eight years old now. Still comes over regularly to get his Scooby snacks and lots of full body rub-downs as he purrs away. Yup, better than I had ever imagined possible.

That’s how Spirit rolls, in my life and I know in yours too. Always finding the path of least resistance to provide us with the essence of what we have been wanting.  That is why I LOVE the art of allowing. Feeling good most of the time. Imagining what I want as though it’s already mine. Being thankful for the abundance I am already living. Allowing myself to be in the receptive mode. It’s really a sweet way to live life and I love teaching clients how to be an awesome allower.

Greeting card I used as a vision board

Greeting card I used as a vision board

Tiger chillaxin on our deck.

Tiger chillaxin on our deck.

One of our many special moments chillin. LOL! :)

One of our many special moments chillin. LOL! :)

Crystal apple dish...

Many years ago I was a U.S. Postal carrier. Yes, I was a mail lady. I enjoyed walking outside and seeing and chatting with my customers yet going to work early on a Saturday morning made me sad. Walking up to a customers door step and hearing the cartoons on the television and smelling bacon cooking for breakfast made my heart hurt, because I wanted to be at home with my family. I was thankful for the secure and good paying job with great benefits. It helped me support my daughter and myself for many years. I was always trying some outside gig to help me eventually and hopefully leave my post office job because it wasn’t my passion. 

One of those side gigs was being a Princess House Consultant. When I joined, the previous Hostess gift was a beautiful apple crystal dish. It was about 5” tall. The lid was the 1/4 top of an apple with the apple stem as the handle. I thought it was beautiful and I wanted one. As a Consultant, we would buy a Kit and it would come with the Hostess gift for that period of time. Unfortunately, I missed the apple crystal dish by weeks and there were none left. I was never able to get my hands on one. That dish and experience always stuck with me. Not sure why I liked that dish so much, but I did. 

Fast forward several years, by this time I had resigned from the Postal Service after 14.7 years and I was no longer a Princess House Consultant. I’d started a Personal Assistant service and was much happier. More freedom and I still had customers to serve and interact with and offering services I enjoyed doing. 

One year on Christmas day, I had left my in-laws earlier than my husband and just before the gift exchange. I remember driving home happy as can be, enjoying the beautiful views of the mountains and valleys as I listened to music loudly in my husband’s truck. The next morning I woke up and headed down the hallway towards our dining room, as I got closer to our dining room I couldn’t believe what I saw sitting on our dining table pointing my way, sitting on the table as if it was waiting for me to wake up. As if it were Christmas morning once again. I stood there, my mouth open, stunned. I stopped about a foot away from it. Staring at it in utter shock and confusion. How?! What?! Where?! It was a crystal apple dish. It was as though I was a child on Christmas morning. Shocked I had been given a gift I had wanted for years. Surprised by it’s arrival. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. It was as though God/Spirit said, “good morning sunshine, Merry Christmas! Here’s something you’ve been wanting.” I walked over to my husband and asked, “what’s this? Where did it come from?” he replied, Linda and Reggie gave it to us, you left before the gift exchange.” I told him my story about wanting the Princess House apple crystal hostess gift for years and never being able to get one. Linda and Reggie had given us the essence of the Princess House crystal apple dish I had longed for. It wasn’t Princess House but it sure looked like the one I had wanted. I hadn’t gone looking for it and yet here it was. I was in utter shock and aw of what had just happened. I instantly called my sister-in-law and told her my story and she said to me, “we were shopping and I saw the dish and thought it was pretty and asked Reggie if he thought Stephanie and Louie would like it? he said, “yeah I think so, get it for them” and so I bought it. You need to thank Reggie, it wasn’t me.”

Later that day and the days to follow I thought about how I’d been feeling prior to the beautiful surprise manifestation. How had I been feeling? What had I been doing? I know I had been feeling good. Spending time with my family and in-laws on Christmas day. Doing my best to focus my attention on thoughts that felt better and looking for things to appreciate such as driving home Christmas night blasting the radio. Feeling so amazing listening to music and singing along to the songs I liked and taking in the beauty of the mountains and view as I left Ramona and drove through Poway and descended down from the mountains. It was beautiful and I was happy! Prior to Christmas, I had been doing my best to practice feeling good as often as possible in one way or another.

It was amazing, after all those years, out of the blue pops out what I wanted. It’s not as though I thought about it all the time. It was something I greatly desired years ago and never got, and than circumstances and events occurred to bring about the full manifestation of it. That’s the funny and awesome thing about Spirit and the Universe, when and how something will come about often isn’t known to us. Maybe as human being’s we’re not supposed to know. It would take all the mystery, intrigue and delight out of living our lives. If we knew everything that was going to happen, when it was going to happen and how it was going to happen life would get pretty dull. So again, the Universe and Spirit are magnificent. 

We are so deeply loved and provided for. What I continue to be reminded of more and more, is that my job, my only job, is to feel as good as I can, as often as I can, for as long as I can. To know that we are deeply loved and provided for. Always. That Spirit always wants the very best for us and that the Universe is explicitly abundant and therefore so are we. When we practice and come to believe that, our lives will be as sweet as a tree ripened orange on a beautiful Spring morning. 

P.S. as I post the images together I realize that the dish that Spirit gave me is prettier and nicer than the one I originally wanted. So like Spirit to give an upgrade on a desire. LOL!

Much love and joy to you! 

Princess House Apple Crystal Dish

Princess House Apple Crystal Dish

The beautiful Apple Crystal Dish gift Spirit chose for me via my sister-in-law Linda.

The beautiful Apple Crystal Dish gift Spirit chose for me via my sister-in-law Linda.

The better it gets the better it gets...

This is the big sell for doing the “feeling better” work. Today has been amazing, one thing after another. It was lovely and it all began this morning, when I stepped out of bed to use the bathroom. In the past, my first thought was a negative thought. A thought that I’d thought many times when I first woke up and began to put one foot on the floor. A thought that felt bad to me yet it had become a habit. A bad habit. A habit that didn’t serve me and it wasn’t until I decided to pay greater attention to how my thoughts felt that I noticed I had this one reoccurring thought first thing in the morning. So I decided to replace it with a better feeling thought such as, “I am thankful for our beautiful view”. We have french doors that look out into our fabulous backyard that I have fondly nicknamed “my oasis of joy”. And so I say, “I am thankful for our beautiful view” and on I go. It’s been several weeks now and I realized this morning that it’s becoming a habit. A good habit. And so that was the beginning of my good day. I did most of my usual morning routine. A lot of it occurs before I get out of bed. First thing, I meditate. I’ve been doing this Insight Timer (phone app) 20 minute meditation called “Law of Attraction and Abundance”. Love it! Then on to appreciation, prayer and setting my intention for the day. This morning happened to be the day where I give myself a coaching session. I hired myself about 18 months ago and I give myself a coaching session once a week, four times a month. It’s amazing. I know it sounds funny but it’s badass. I brag, (something us women don’t do enough of) I’m an awesome coach. Btw, my coaching session today left me feeling fantastic! As law of attraction would have it some incredible momentum was created by 11:45 am. Then, off to co-work with a friend I used to co-work with regularly yet we haven’t in a while so I’m excited and happy to see her. Work side by side and write on my stories and do other business items needing to be done. 

I showed up at Twiggs coffee shop to co-work with my sweet friend who for the stories sake I shall call Tonya. We catch up a little before I begin to work. I’m feeling pretty damn good now having pre-paved my day. About an hour and a half goes by and Tonya had stepped outside to stretch her legs. I’m working on one of my stories and I hear a man say, “Miss Orlina”. I look up and it’s a nicely dressed attractive man who I don’t recognize. He smiles at me and says again, “Miss Orlina”. I’m thinking, he knows my last name, do I somehow know him through my husband? I say yes and he says to me Dan, Dan B (I have changed his name as well). Still not registering until it does a huge smile of surprise and delight covers my face and I remember where I know this man from. Oh my God, I met Dan over a year ago while eating breakfast on a lovely Sunday morning in Pacific Beach. I had gone there to celebrate some major work achievements I had recently accomplished. We sat near one another and we struck up a conversation. Dan being as friendly and open as I we had a lovely chat about life and business. He told be about his “informational interview” work he’d created from reading a book he to this day cannot remember the name of. At the time I felt it was a gift from God, the next tool I could utilize in the continued growth of my business. He gave me his contact info and told me he’d send me the documents he had created. I had stayed in touch with him ever since, doing my best to practice what he suggested in his material, which is to stay in regular monthly contact. 

Dan asked if he could join me for a moment and I said, of course please sit down. He started to sit across from me and I motioned him to bring his chair closer to where I was sitting. I couldn’t believe it, here I was at Twiggs, I hadn’t co-worked here in over a year. Dan had never been to this coffee house yet had been near by and wanted some coffee. He walks in and there I am sitting writing about my stories of life and how Spirit does for us amazing things on the regular and in this very moment Spirit is surprising and delighting us both. WOW! Another story. I couldn’t believe I was sitting across from Dan. He looked really good. He had mentioned to me in his last email that he’d lost many pounds and was feeling and looking good. We chatted, catching up on the latest and all I could do as I sat across from him was beam with joy by what was happening. I had just been thinking of Dan, for a couple of reasons. I’d been reading books by Rich Dad Poor Dad, Robert Kiyosaki, and considering one of the ways I would create passive income was to purchase rental properties for positive cash flow. I knew Dan was in commercial real estate and wanted to chat with him about real estate in general. Also, it’d been awhile since I last emailed him and it was time to check in. Wow, Spirit made the phone call for me and actually decided to make it a sit down meeting. LOL! I was buzzing with delight. We hadn’t seen each other in person since the first day we met and here we now were “out of the blue” sitting across from each other catching up. I was feeling good before yet now I was over the moon with delight. WTBleep?! I love Spirit, God, Higher Power. How the Universe will surprise and delight us in ways we would never imagine AND all we need to do is do the “feeling better” work. Help ourselves be in the receptive mode, allowing the good to arrive and in this case, keep arriving. We went back and forth talking about what was going on. Then I asked him about real estate and what he does. He shared his story with me. His work history since college. We’re about the same age, in our 50’s. I got some info for real estate. Which was great. Tonya walked back in and I introduced them to one another. I believe Tonya was the first person I had shared Dan’s informational interview documents with. She had enjoyed reading and using his material and found it to be very helpful in growing her influential contacts. Dan had so graciously said to me, “please share them with anyone you’d like”. So it was a privilege to introduce them to one another. By the way this was something else I had been wanting, for these two to meet. They chatted briefly and Dan and I returned to our conversation. Man was  I happy! Did I tell you that already? LOL! My good feeling mood had compounded by the events that were unfolding before my very eyes. I never in a million years would have imagined this happening today in this way. That’s HP! Dan’s cell phone had been buzzing throughout our conversation and he kept pushing it away, he finally said, “ok, I’ll tell you the drama, the upset that is going on in my life today”. He proceeded to share it all with me. It was pretty emotional stuff and he teared up as he told me. I reached my hand out to console him. I won’t divulge here what he said. I will say, it would rock anyone of our worlds. I gave him some words of encouragement as well as saying that the young person in his life was lucky to have him. A good man, and his wife who I knew had to be amazing to have married him. That now this person could get the support they had been needing.

He needed to leave so I said I would walk out with him. We chatted a little more outside. I wanted to be as supportive and kind as I could. I knew he was in a lot of emotional pain because of what was going on. He said he knew now why he had come to this coffee shop. It was so that he would run into me. He was able to share his pain and get some support. He hadn’t really shared it with anyone. The only people that knew were the immediate people who had been affected. I am now so happy I could be there for him. He is one of the sweetest, giving, grounded, friendliest, kindest men I have met in my life and I felt honored and privileged to be there for him in a way I never thought I’d be given the opportunity to. It really is one of the things I do best. He left and I walked back in happy, filled, and in awe of God’s ability to put me in places that would bring me joy and be of service to others. It is one of the many benefits of practicing the “feeling better” work. Something good is always coming. After chatting with Tonya for a bit more I told her I was going to use the restroom and get back to writing. As I stood up to head to the restroom I looked in that direction and recognized a familiar face that I’d never seen in this part of town. I had been thinking of this friend a day or two ago. WHAT?! I stepped back and bent down to tell Tonya, I just spotted another friend. I walked over to her, I shall call her Kathy, and said, “excuse me do you know if they have Jasmine tea here?” she looked up at me and after a second a big smile appeared on her face as she said, “oh my god what are you doing here? I was going to text you about dinner soon”. We hugged and laughed at our running into each other. We agreed to make dinner plans soon. 

Life isn’t always jammed packed with amazing mind blowing moments, however, practicing the “feeling better” work is always beneficial in a variety of ways. What I do know, is if I hadn’t taken the time to be mindful and practice the tools of “feeling better” I wouldn’t have been in a higher vibration to allow in the wonderful experience of running into Dan and everything else that came about that day and for that I am deeply thankful. The great benefit of doing the “feeling better” work is that we get to enjoy life more and more. When we come to understand that our thoughts create our life experience and become mindful about what we’re going to give our attention to, it is priceless. No amount of action gives greater returns nor feels better than when we practice “feeling good/feeling better”.  

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